The new year is a chance to make changes for the better, not only for yourself, but also for your family. As a caregiver, you are responsible for the overall wellbeing of your children. Providing them with shelter, food, and security is key, but just as important is how you’re supporting their mental wellbeing. As the mental health crisis continues to grow for the kids and teens in this country, there are things you can do in the home to help your kids feel truly supported.  Here are a few ways to support your child’s mental health this year.

Strengthen your relationship

Take an assessment of your relationship with your child.  How would your child describe their relationship with you? Would they say that you were close, or do they see you as just an authority figure?  There are plenty of benefits to working to improve your relationship with your child, no matter their age.  When they like you and enjoy being around you, they’ll see you as someone they can trust and open up to.  When they are struggling with stress, anxiety, or sadness, you get to be that go-to person for them. Now, how cool would that be? 

So, what changes do you need to make for that to happen?  Maybe it’s being a less punitive parent and being more spontaneous and fun.  Or maybe actually taking time to listen to their problems without passing judgment or offering advice.  With younger children, you may just need to get down on the floor and play with them for a few minutes each day.  Figure out what it may be for you and your child, and start making those changes today.

Teach healthy coping skills

Life is hard, and if the past few years are any indication, it’s probably not going to get any easier in 2022.  Between friendship drama, schoolwork, and social media, the life of a kid today can be very stressful.  How well do your kids handle stress?  Pay attention to how your child responds whenever they are stressed.  Poor stress management techniques can lead to a decline in mental wellbeing. 

This is a great opportunity to work with your child on learning healthy coping skills.  Instead of assuming that they know how to deal with stress, talk to them about their coping mechanisms.  Give them suggestions if needed, and even better, engage in these coping skills together.  If your kid’s had a bad day, tell them, “Hey, let’s go on a walk together” or “Why don’t you teach me how to play your favorite video game?”.  Your child’s ability to find healthy ways to manage intense emotions can greatly improve their mental health.     

Get them support

You are a superhero, but sometimes you may not be able to do it all.  You might need to bring in some additional help if you see that your child is struggling.  It’s important to observe your child’s emotions and behaviors and make note of any changes that you see. Getting them into counseling to explore their feelings is always a plus.  You don’t have to wait until things are extremely bad to get your child connected with a mental health provider.  Getting them support early and consistently can help decrease the likelihood of any major concerns.